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2. become a psychopath like him
3. leave him
#1 the victim is psychologically tortured, sometimes to the point of suicide. Some psychopaths have actually murdered their wives.
#2 is that "second" death (Matt. 10:28).
"...Let's look at it as if you did not write it and it was not directed at me..."
It is not surprising that Xenia thinks I directed my comment at her. For a narcissist, it is always about them.
It is also typical and characteristic of narcissists to do a lot of projection. The "advice" and the "attention seeking" she sees are both projections. When a narcissist accuses you of thinking something or feeling something that is not in you, or having motives that you don't, then you can be certain it is in them.
An example from true life is a malignant narcissist husband who accused his wife of having him followed by a detective. It had never even occurred to the wife to hire a P.I., and she wondered what she had done to give him that idea. Months later, in divorce court, it was revealed that the husband had hired a detective to follow his wife, right during the time he had made his accusation against her.